Pairing is an effective kind of therapy that professionals use in children to gain trust as well as instructional control. They do this so that children can like them and view them as a positive and friendly presence. Parents to use pairing to control the behavior of their children and encourage good manners since they are always the ones giving demands at home. ABA pairing is always used as therapy especially for children with autism or special needs to establish acceptable behavior. Through this aspect, the individuals are able to associate with the teacher and the instructor can give instructions. The following is a guide to efficient pairing.

Put away the items that the child likes most and only give them access when they ask for them. This is a good way of encouraging them to approach you when they need anything. You will gain control and always give instructions when you are handing out the item. However, avoid disappointing them and losing their trust by ensuring the items are available all the time.

When gaining access to an item, allow them to come to you for the thing or engage in their favorite activity. Avoid giving them this access if they are running away from you or have engaged in problem behavior. You need to know that they can come to you freely without being coerced rather than running away with fear. Reinforce the behavior that you want to see even in the future.

The way you react to your kid will explain a lot about how you feel being with them. Hence, always use a friendly tone and facial expressions to depict that you love being around them. Make this a fun experience for both you and your child by praising them and imitating the way they speak or act. Call them by their names when playing so that they will feel the friendliness in your voice.

Avoid delivering demands since the kid may feel unwanted or burdened. Instead, allow a kid to lead you as you follow them. Use descriptive phrases so that you can fascinate their attention to things you want them to play with. Instead of demanding them to do something, describe to them how it can be fun to do the thing and do not force them if they do not want.

Avoid being the taker. This means that you should never take items from them when they are playing or using them. Instead, if you want them to drop an item, use another favorite item to exchange. Trading items for others ensure that the child will not get attached to one thing for too long.

Pairing can take a considerable amount of time especially if there is a negative behavior that needs to be eradicated. In case the child runs crying, he or she may have lost some trust in you and it may take some time to repair the relationship. With pairing, the child will approach you rather than run away hence building a better relationship.

The process will also take longer if you want to introduce them to activities they do not prefer. Be patient and ensure that you pair with them every day. After some time, your kid will have the skills of interaction and you will both enjoy.